Relationship Matters 5

 Yo,

It's the beginning of a new week of productivity and we are gradually getting closer to the end of this month 💃💃.

Alright, so today I am going to be answering a question; "Who is my Spec 😎?"

A lot of ladies when asked questions like "What do you want in a man?". And then you hear replies like: "The guy must be handsome,tall, fair in complexion, must have broad chest 😂, must have six-packs😂, must be swimming in money.......Come on 😂; Sister!!!, Na that wan you chop 😂. 

Don't get me wrong tho'...... Every lady wants a guy who is good-looking. Yeah........But your first priority in a guy should be one who fears God. Remember this person is going to be a father figure for your children in the Future. Now, a God fearing guy does not mean the guy must be the one that prays for 24-hours non stop or that when he prays fire falls or one who blast in tongues for a while day. Nah....... I am not saying it's wrong or it's not good for a guy to do these things but besides that is it just a facade?, Is he just putting it all up to impress people?

A God-fearing person is one who respects God and also respects his partner. A God-fearing person is definitely not a wife beater; because if you truly respects your wife you won't raise your hands to hit her. 

A God fearing lady is not just a lady that when she sings everyone falls under the powers of the Holy Ghost. She is one who respects God and her partner. A God-fearing lady is definitely not a tongue- wagging lady. 

Yeah, the next one, like I said every lady likes a good looking guy. 

Brother!!!!! 

The fact that you are Christian doesn't mean you should be looking like one who is suffering or one who the whole world is against. 

Being a Christian doesn't mean you should wear over sized trousers or shirts and oversized shoes or carry bushy hair around. You have to dress well, look good, even if at all you want to approach a lady. 

The same goes for ladies, I am a Christian doesn't mean I should look like someone living in poverty. Dress well but dress in a modest way. Your dressing speaks a lot about you😇😇.

Let your spec, be someone who lives comfortably and not necessarily someone who is very very very rich. That's what affects most ladies, looking for a guy who is swimming in money; I tell you if that money Rus dry you won't be able to cope.

A guy or a lady who is hardworking and industrious should be the one you should look out for. Not a guy or a lady who will be expecting fish all the time and doesn't want to know how to catch that fish ☺️. 

A guy who is caring, trustworthy and has your best interest at heart.

A lady who is caring, trustworthy and has your best interest at heart. 

Above all, let your spec be God's will for your life. 

Well, let's me stop though there are still more to discuss but before I go let me say this:

"Before you can see those qualities you are looking for in a guy, the work starts from you, work on yourself"

See you next week by God's grace 🙏🏻❤️